I felt such a shift slower than people around me, and I've also been partially (and unwillingly, though gladly) pulled back to something more akin to the old days recently.
When I started using the Internet around 2008/2009, Brazil was transitioning from dial-up ubiquity to "wow, I can download files at 150 KBps!" broadband connections. Dial-up time wasn't that limited, and I could use it for a few hours; still, it forced patience upon me, something that remained useful as my house transitioned to still fairly low-speed and unstable broadbands. Even as I stayed hours in front of the screen—school was always easy for me, as I was a curious kid with a nerd father and Internet access since 7; I never had to spend too much time studying—those were hours used
actively, exactly as you've described.
My school classmates started getting sucked into the smartphone craze around 2012, and it fully normalized for them around 2013. I got one by 2014 and only got used to it by the end of 2015, as my girlfriend at that time used it a lot and got me into it. Here in Brazil, Whatsapp is unfortunately almost as quintessential to all daily activities as breathing is; everywhere and for everything, one is forced to use it. This became worse when I entered college in 2017, and as much as I've always hated phones and preferred desktops and laptops over them, I couldn't escape normalizing their usage.
As you've said:
More recently it feels like the internet is something that's being done to us.
I started enjoying it after a while. What brought me out of it was COVID-19—as my college suspended all in-person activities from 2020 to 2021, I was suddenly brought back to my days of 10-hour desktop usage. I was slowly but surely confronted with boredom and the feeling that even the good old drug of notifications wasn't enough to escape from it. Quite ironically, it was devising a healthier, more active, and old-school way of spending my time in front of the screen that saved me from rotting away waiting for Twitter notifications. I started using Linux (
inb4 "I use Arch btw"), got into ricing, was seduced by the digital gardening movement (and more recently by Web Revival), returned to retro gaming, started reviving many old hobbies... In short, I did a lot.
When in-person internships returned by late 2021 (and in-person classes and research activities earlier this year), I had gotten used to active computer and Internet usage again. Even if I wanted to use my phone more, I wouldn't be able to—the software I use, the workflow for my studies and research, my hobbies, they're all not amenable in the slightest to the shape and capabilities of phones anymore. While I still use regular social media, my time there is far more limited, and my usage more purposeful.
More importantly, my routine regained a clear division between offline and online as I spend most of my time writing, reading, and studying. Most of the tools I use today are offline or hybrid. I've integrated digital and analog in my workflow, handwritten notes becoming OCRed or re-typed and vice-versa. My phone is at most a boom box/Walkman or a tool to show memes to the friends I'm talking to
in-person nowadays. I started using slower forms of communication (such as email) more regularly. Reading longform content more than tweet-shaped thingies has also been helping a lot. I also (almost) stopped using Spotify and went back to torrenting/soulseeking (I was never into movie streaming thankfully).
In short, life became ritualistic once again. They're small things, but they surprisingly brought back some sense of individual historicity that I had utterly lost.