i use it/its!
though a lot of people tend to be really weird about that (i've had people start whole arguments with me over it before- it's perfectly fine to not like being called an it yourself, but refusing to use other people's pronouns because of your own problems with them is unacceptable. imagine if someone wouldn't use she/her or he/him for a person who explicitly asked them to because they thought there were negative connotations!), so i usually resort to he/him in spaces that i don't think are queer friendly