"you'd look better/good/pretty if you'd smile more [or insert other inane thing here]" okay do i look like i care
also the amount of people whose default compliment is "you look good/cute" when you present as a woman annoys me
i know they'd have no way of knowing this because i'm not out and it won't be safe for me to be. but it feels like they're spitting in the face of my dysphoria, telling me how to feel about my own body, that being cute is more "valuable" than being comfortable
i also hate getting compliments on my weight because i had trouble eating due to stress when i was young, so it feels like they're saying that's a "good" thing just because i'm skinny
i know it's not that deep but it all feels so shallow to me