Struggles with Socialisation on the Indie Web

[lakes]

You just described me.

I know because I'm in a similar situation.

I'm confused by the direction of this thread. This thread was made in response to threads made by members that wanted to make friends on the indie web, but had problems in doing so.

The focus here is discussing personal difficulties on forming friendships on the indie web, for anyone that wants to do that. MediocreMetastasis' thread Who do you consider an "online friend" is more relevant to the topic of online friendship in general.

This describes multiple posters of the threads I linked, which is who this thread is primarily aimed at.

In that case, to get the thread back on track, I'm gonna answer with how I make friends in these spaces.
Following people on sites like Neocities, Nekoweb, or even just talking on a forum regularly can sometimes pique people's interest and help them see if they wanna be friends with you. I also try not to be afraid when reaching out using the contact info on someone's website. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. But they often respond even if it doesn't always result in friendship. If you don't wanna do email, it helps to be on alternative instant messengers. For example, I switched to a friend's VPS from Nekoweb because I contacted the XMPP account on his website and we just hit it off.

[candycanearter07]

i email people sometimes but it still feels frustratingly disconnected and like im just kinda there talking to them and not being able to actually build anything and stuff

[Noah_S]

What I was trying and failing to say in my first post is that if someone has actually made friends on social media, then leaving and coming to the indie web shouldn't be a hindrance keeping in contact. What I meant and what I ended up writing ended up different because I got scared of saying that friendship requires effort.

I suppose that's one way that social media has affected me.

Also to get back on track.

I would advice looking for people who value similar things to you.

I don't really know anything about the becoming friends process. Before I went to a meatspace hobby meetup where the person I mentioned earlier would be, I messaged him to briefly explain my disability because it was gonna affect meatspace interactions and I didn't want to be a confusing mess. Then he was accepting when we were there and I'm still confused about how we ended up in continued contact, except that I made the active decision that I wanted to try and messaged him about a TV show a bit after the meetup.