I grew up with that era of the web and think a lot about what made it special. There are tons of factors but I think the biggest are:
1. The internet was somewhere you
went, not something you carried in your pocket.
2. Desktop interfaces (keyboards, big screens) made text and longer-form communication the dominant medium.
3. Far fewer people, thus less infrastructure for monetization, so it was more hobby-oriented and less exploited.
Something I try to do more of lately is drawing a distinction between "the internet" and "the web". The internet is the network that apps, social media, and the web all sit on. The web is specifically a web browser going to web sites. I think we often conflate the two and I even use them interchangeably without thinking. But they're different and I think that matters a lot for the "indie web revival" that MelonLand etc. are a part of.
As smartphones and apps became the dominant medium to interact the content has been formed by it, like phones are annoying to type on, so video and voice are more popular, and phones have less screen space, so designs/interfaces have been simplified and made bland. etc.
BUT that's just apps on the internet. The WEB is still here, still best used on a desktop with a nice big screen and full keyboard, still full of possibilities. Most of the attention (money) has shifted to app ecosystems, but the web is still here and it's ours to do with what we want. Socializing on smaller, slower forums is still very much possible. Unique and artistic interfaces are still possible, and I think is's up to us to not only keep that spirit of alive, but to try to be forward-thinking about it. I have tons of nostalgia for the way the web used to be, but I try to use it as fuel for the future instead of longing for the past. I want to take the things that made that era of the web special and try to bring them with us into building a better web of the present!
And of course obligatory plug, I've been collecting a links to independent internet forums if you're looking to find a new one to join:
https://indieforums.linklists.net/I also participate in a small indie forum with some friends that is cozy and friendly if you want to come say hi. :) It's mostly an offshoot of a different community and full of most of the same people, but new friends are welcome! https://forum.sickos.net/ (if you can't figure out the bot-prevention registration question just PM me here on MelonLand)