haha, i've never played through elden ring myself but i can definitely relate to your frustration as someone who has played some of bloodborne! i love bloodborne, don't get me wrong, but maaaan it is one hell of a rage-inducing game at times. i don't quite "get" soulslikes so i approach it the same way i'd approach a game like skyrim - guns blazin' goofing off, more or less
one day i'll actually figure things out and get around to beating the game. i had a similar experience with one of the actual souls games on xbox years back since it was free to download at one point, might've been dark souls II.
i have heard of another crab's treasure and i think i actually have it on my steam wishlist. to be honest, i didn't even know it was a soulslike game! i just thought the crabs looked cool xD and steam recommended it to me since i had played vampyr (which, i'll be honest, i don't really understand the connection here). i'm glad you're having a fun experience with it!!! it looks like a really fun game
i know it's debated on whether or not this is actually a soulslike game, but i enjoy remnant: from the ashes a lot. i've never tried a solo run so i don't know how difficult it would be, but i know it can be quite difficult at points with a full party of three. a friend of mine who is super into the souls games recommended it to me and a mutual friend, and we're almost finished with the story. we haven't played in a while so it's possible that this has been fixed now, but the only real problem i've had with the game is that it can get awfully laggy
in my opinion, i'd say it is a more forgiving soulslike game because there aren't really any penalties when you die (as far as i'm aware, other than the 'restart' point being a little further back than desirable); otherwise, it's got many of the same souls game mechanics.
i definitely don't think that soulslike games have to be unfair in order to be good games - or "true" soulslike games for that matter, since i expect some of the more hardline fans will probably argue such. counter-strike and fishards are both classified as shooter games, but fishards being sillier and much simpler doesn't make it any less of one. perhaps it's a rather silly example, but overall i think that trying to categorize game genres by how "unfair" they are is just unnecessary. i'd much rather hear a game be criticized as a "bad" soulslike game because maybe it doesn't incorporate specific mechanics as well as another does than hear "x isn't actually a soulslike game because it's easier than y".