Being a responsible adult in this world

[CinPunk]

Pretty straightforward post, I would say (lol) but yeah. Being an adult is difficult and no school can prepare you for work, relationships,  life.

There's something you want to say to younger people? or peers?
Because what I can say is: nothing goes your own way, you have to work your way throught, sometimes, even biting if necessary. Even if you have friends, your life is yours, following blindly someone is the worst you can do to yourself. Mental health is really hard to get over, or accepting yourself as you are, is not as easy as it seems. Whatever you do, DO NOT LOSE YOURSELF, lose your interests, lose your inner "You", even if it's cringe, weird, unconventional, whatever it is. Losing yourself is one of the worst things ever, I can guarantee from experience.

[Seryndelle]

Whatever you do, DO NOT LOSE YOURSELF, lose your interests, lose your inner "You", even if it's cringe, weird, unconventional, whatever it is.

I second this!

"The secret of genius is to carry the spirit of the child into old age, which means never losing your enthusiasm." —Aldous Huxley (with a bonus music video thrown in there as a treat)

I would also add a little point of reassurance: I still feel the same at 25 as I did at 15 (although I think that's maybe because I felt like a 25-year-old already by that point) All this to say, while it's incredibly important to keep that spark that makes you you, there's probably less risk of losing it than you might think. I mean, for a start, you've managed to find your way to this side of the internet, so you've clearly got a very strong sense of your own personal style already. This forum is pretty dang far from the mainstream!

Also, for the love of all that is holy, get a calendar app and use it. I wouldn't be able to function without mine. That's probably the most "adulty" advice I can give

[Paprika]

Don't give so much importance at what other people think about you. Be careful about posting stuff on Discord/TikTok/etc that could be misinterpreted or taken out of context. DOn't worry too much about everything, your brain is not made to endure all the world's problems on the backburner of your mind.

Most of adulting (at least for me) is fake it til you make it. No one can be perfectly prepared for everything, trust yourself, go on, do it. No one's a master at everything so maybe you'll find yourself doing something much better than you expected because yu just gave a shot at it.

List your meals, make batch cooking and use glass jars (such as fruit compote) to store it for you week. Put fancy stickers or label on the glass to know what or when you will eat it. Don't buy if someone is pressuring you to do so, most of the time it's a ploy to make you waste money. Think twice before buying.

Try to think about something before buying it. Will you use it ? How much will you use it ? Is it absolutely necessary ? Can't you make the result yourself with something you already have ?

Chores can be a hassle, try to make it with music or dancing tunes. Open your windows from time to time, fresh air can make you really feel good. Don't let a slight problem stay like it is forever because it might get worse and fixing it will be more expensive or difficult.

Try to save money, even if it's one small bill or a couple coins, keep them in a jar for tough times or emergency.

Don't buy tools for a single use or if you"re not 100% sure you'll use it over a long time span. Talk to your neighbors, ask them to help or loan tools. Offer to pay back with cooking (you'd be surprised about the amount of people more interested by a fresh batch of homemade cookies over a 20$ bill...)

That's all from the top of my head for now, I'll add later if I think more of it.

[cynderthekitsune]

these are all really interesting actually! i loved reading though all these

i'm still a legal minor but i'm graduating high school in like just a few months - weirdly enough i've felt being in the real world i've kinda felt i've lost a bit of childlike-wonder but eh
signed up for Mastodon a few days ago and pestering my Discord friends again and weirdly felt it come back a little like - i guess negativity and crap kinda makes me feel more stubborn and things. maybe it's just cuz everyone around me in the real world is stubborn and conservative maybe but idk.

still feeling unsure about the world tho -- how hard is it to get out of a nasty environment and things? mine's a shithole and i just wanna move out soo fucking badly to a better state entirely. whatever.
also how different can work feel to school and etc?
okay i've never had a job ever and kinda feel jealous of all my classmates with jobs .P.

[invader_gvim]

It's one million and a half times better to be poor and desperate than it is to be beholden to help from someone who hates you, condescends to you, and tries to control you. If you feel like a person is helping you for bad reasons, do not accept their help.

If you feel like moving out of your backward and depressed area, gtfo quick. Don't feel tied down to some region because of legacy, tradition, or anything else that ultimately doesn't matter nearly as much as you, your love, and your ownness. Hang on to your ego.

Jump into love, but not lust. Don't be selfish towards your partner, and make sure that you view yourself and theirself as one self. In that vain, don't go looking for love. Let friendship drift into something closer, until you find yourself asking them out when really you've already been dating for a year. Do this, and you will find your soulmate without having to worry about getting screwed over. View your friends as brothers and sisters. Ask yourself if your biological brothers and sisters are worthy enough to call themselves your friends.

Be strong, fierce, and unashamed. To be cringe is to be bold. Be

AMAZING.

Above all else, never quit a job unless you already have a new job. Always pay your bills before doing what you want. Only ask people for financial help when you are certain you can't do without it. Ask people for nonfinacial help at every oppurtunity. They will be grateful for the ability to prove their love to you, but make sure that you are equally willing to help them as you want them to be towards you. Volunteer to help them before they ask.